So this is just going to be a venting post since this has probably been the worse Xmas I have experienced
For those of you who don't know my mother has a boyfriend with whom she is absolutely obsessed with.
To put things bluntly, it is the most irritating relationship I have witnessed.
She cannot bear to be away from him, even on Christmas and turns down invitations to EVERYWHERE
And no, it is not because she does not want to be around, it is because her pet will bug her incessantly and belittle her if she is not with him.
He will accuse her of cheating,
Talking in a backstabbing manner,
And will belittle her until she is away from her family and back home with him.
She spent years trying to prove to my father that she is not like his ex-wife who left him.
Now she is putting all her time and effort into a relationship where she is being accused constantly of being like HIS ex-wife now.
A woman should not have to prove her worth by sacrificing her freedom of choice.
Now on Christmas she has decided that her boyfriend is worlds more important compared to her two daughters who miss her everyday.
She will make excuses to not visit by saying she is tired, that she has work to get done
She was never this "tired" or such a "workaholic" before she moved in with her boyfriend.
It is agitating to say the least.
Because I cannot go places to celebrate the usual family traditions because she refuses to make an appearance.
They are both more clingy than teenagers.
I was in a VERY co-dependant relationship in the past to the point where BOTH of us would freak out if we didnt hear from eachother within a couple of hours.
This is worlds worse.
If she is away from him at any given time then she must text him and call him, I would say around every half hour to "update" him.
Ridiculous does NOT cut it.
His temper is extremely bi-polar and in all honesty I fear the worse for her.
It all went from me seeing her every day because we lived together,
To seeing her sometimes because we still lived together,
To seeing her after work and on the weekends after she moved out
To only being allowed to see her on Saturdays, MAYBE Sundays if there weren't any pior boyfriend plans,
To not seeing her at all. Even on Christmas.
Even though she lives only about twenty minutes away....
AND
This drastic transition all happened within the course of 6-8 months within meeting him!!!
I am agitated with her but I can live without a motherly figure since I grew up without a fatherly one anyhow.
But what is extremely painful is the fact that I have a younger sister with special needs who misses her and who has come to me crying
Because she feels as if she has been abandoned by both her parents.
A young teenager NEEDS her mother and my sister is NOT getting that because of this brainwashing.
I wish that all the rest of you have a very good Christmas or holidays or whatever...
But I am simply not enjoying mine.
i jus wish i could makes you happyful\